Becoming a Woman of Worship and Prayer {#MissionWomanhood}

 

What is worship?

www.lydiaglick.com #missionwomanhoodDefinition of “WORSHIP”, taken from Webster’s 1828 Dictionary:

1. To adore; to pay divine honors to; to reverence with supreme respect and veneration.

Thou shalt worship no other God. Exodus 34:14.

2. To respect; to honor; to treat with civil reverence.

3. To honor with extravagant love and extreme submission; as a lover.

We all worship something (or elevate the importance of some one or something, and hold it in high regard). We were created to worship, and it’s something that comes naturally to us. Most girls and women worship celebrities, beauty, relationships, expectations, ideals, ourselves, education, career, security, money, social status, fashion, boys & men, and even family to some degree. We begin to worship something when we set our attention on it often, and it begins to become the primary affection and focus of our lives.

The problem with placing too much importance in any of the above mentioned things is that they can never satisfy the deepest longings of your soul. Although many of these things are important and even wonderful, at some point every one of them will never fail to disappoint you, and let you down. Although they may give you temporary feelings of happiness, in and of themselves they will never bring you complete joy.

The only place you will find the kind of joy that stands the tests of time, difficult circumstances, change, and even persecution, is worshipping God.

Some things to think about:

  • Do you believe in God?
  • Do you have a relationship with God?
  • How can you worship a God you don’t know?
  • How can you know a God you never talk to?

If you believe in God, you will have a desire to know God. And as you learn to know God, you can’t help but worship him. When you continually talk to God (pray), you will begin to know Him more and more. And it will result in more intimate and powerful prayers and more beautiful and meaningful worship of Jesus.

Learning to worship and pray to God:

Becoming a woman of prayer and worship doesn’t mean you must become a nun, be the best and loudest singer at church on Sunday mornings, or say specific prayers over and over again. It simply requires a conscious effort to make both worship and prayer a part of your normal, everyday rhythms.

If you want to know God you need to talk to him. That’s called prayer. When you know more about God, you will be amazed by who He is, and what He’s done. Acknowledging those things is called worship.

Make worship and prayer part of everything. Start your day with prayer. End your day with prayer. And pray for everything in between. Worship God while you are lying in your bed, by singing a song right then and there, or bursting into song while you’re cleaning your room, washing the dishes or driving down the road with your family. You can even whistle a tune to Jesus while you’re grocery shopping!

Worship and prayer are as simple as whispering “Thank you, Jesus”, when you see a blessing He has given to you, or remember something He has done for you, and “God, please help me” when you need Him in any circumstance throughout the day or night.

Pray and worship alone, with your family, and with your friends. What if you don’t feel like it? What if it feels awkward? What if you don’t sound like a pastor, or worship leader? Pray and worship anyway! Just as anything else in life, it becomes more natural and less intimidating when we practice it often.

Step out and be the one who initiates prayer at home, when you’re with your friends, when you’re at school and even while you’re out in public places like the mall. Be known as the girl who prays! Be known as the woman who worships Jesus with every part of her life! Let worship and prayer become part of your identity.

Things that have helped me most, in learning how to worship and pray:

  • Reading the Psalms in my Bible.
  • Spending countless hours of time with friends in the prayer room who know how to pray and worship, and have taught me how to do the same, and studying the lives of those who worship and pray.
  • Using The Lord’s Prayer as a guide for my prayers. (As you say the Lord’s Prayer, pause after each portion and personalize it.)
  • Worshipping God through His Word. (Use passages in the Bible that talk about God, read those verses aloud and pray them back to God – adding your own worshipful words to them.
  • Using prayers in the Bible as a starting place for your own prayers. (Click here for a resource I use.)
  • Setting aside time in the day to worship and adore God, not asking Him for anything, simply meditating on who He is, and what He has done – and then thanking Him and praising Him.
  • Setting aside time in the day to pray and intercede for others, and keeping a prayer journal to help me remember who to pray for, and record answers to specific prayers.
  • Listening to praise and worship music.
  • Reading books about worship and prayer, and learning all I can about the subject.

You can tell what someone worships by the way they live their life and the things they talk about. You can tell who someone regularly talks to, by the words that come out of their mouth and their actions that follow. My desire for you daughter, is that you will be a worshipper of our beloved Jesus, and a woman who knows and talks to her God. And in turn that your worship and prayer overflow into every crevice of your life, making each moment a beautiful offering to Him, the One who is forever worthy of all your affection, who will always be faithful and true, and the One who loves you more than you can ever imagine.

 

beYOUtiful {bathroom wall makeover}

beYOUtiful #lydiaglick #missionwomanhood

 

As I’m traveling this “journey to womanhood” with my daughters I decided to do a quick makeover on their bathroom wall. They spend a lot of time in that room, so it’s the perfect place to put up some important reminders for them from their mama!

I used things we already had in our crafting closet to make it, so it cost me nothing but a little time.

Supplies needed:

  • Scrapbook paper
  • White Annie Sloan chalk paint
  • Washi tape

Quotes used:

  • “I love you always” ~ Jesus
  • Be brave today
  • You are my sunshine
  • She believed she could, so she did
  • Hello, you are amazing!
  • beYOUtiful
  • Adventure awaits you!
  • I love you to the moon and back
  • Songbird spread your wings, fly and sing

I love to encourage my girls. And I hope this inspires you to cheer your kiddos on today! It’s a tough world out there, and they need our constant love and support.

~ Justina Dee

 

Seek God First {#missionwomanhood}

One Thing #lydiaglick #missionwomanhood

Daughters of mine,

Womanhood is a vast adventure and there are countless opinions and ideas about what it means to be a woman. I want to teach you some of the lessons I’ve learned and things I’ve come to understand. I’ve learned these lessons through watching women I admire and strive to emulate, through painful mistakes, misplaced hopes & dreams, and the school of life. Most of all I’ve learned them as a result of my relationship with Christ.

That is why we’re beginning our “40 Lessons in Womanhood” with this: SEEK GOD FIRST. It’s the most important thing you will do in your entire life. Everything else pales in comparison to the joy and fulfillment of knowing God.

When your deepest and primary desire is to know and see Jesus, the path for your life will fall into place. Knowing God doesn’t mean your circumstances will be easy, but a relationship with Him will result in a life that is meaningful, and brings about the beautiful and purposeful destiny that God designed for you.

As a daughter of God, you must decide that the one thing you will place ahead of anything else in your life is to seek after God and live in His presence. Of course we know that God is everywhere. And He promises that He is always with us. But to know His beauty and His matchless love in a tangible way, we must continually set our mind, heart and affections on God.

So, how does a girl go about seeking after God? Here are three ways to begin: (these three steps are modifications from a John Piper article referenced below.)

1. First, you must make a conscious choice to seek Him, and set your mind on Him – as you read your Bible, spend time with other people who reflect His character, and as you enjoy the beauty of His creation.

2. Next, you must avoid things that dull your sensitivity to hearing, seeing, understanding and knowing God. Start your morning with prayer, and during that time ask God to open your eyes and reveal himself to you. Continue with that heart as you go about your day. If there are things that cause you to feel distant from God, RUN from them!

3. Pride is a massive roadblock in our lives, and causes us to turn away from God instead of seeking after Him. When you feel yourself reaching a position of not needing or wanting God to be involved in any area of your life you can be sure you are not walking in humility. Ask God to change your heart.

In closing, here’s a quote that I love very much. Please carry this with you for the rest of your life:

The great promise to those who seek the Lord is that he will be found. “If you seek him, he will be found by you” (1 Chronicles 28:9). And when he is found, there is great reward. “Whoever would draw near to God must believe that he exists and that he rewards those who seek him” (Hebrews 11:6). God himself is our greatest reward. And when we have him, we have everything. Therefore, “Seek the Lord and his strength; seek his presence continually!” ~ John Piper

As your mother, my deepest longing is that you will seek after and know Jesus. There is no greater treasure to me, or measure of successful womanhood, than seeing you walk in the knowledge and fullness of His immeasurable love for you.

Verses to meditate on:

Chronicles 22:19a”Now set your mind and heart to seek the Lord your God” 1 Chronicles 22:19a

“If then you have been raised with Christ, seek the things that are above, where Christ is, seated at the right hand of God. Set your minds on things that are above, not on things that are on earth.” Colossians 3:1-2

Related Song: 

Cory Asbury, My Beloved 

References: 

My main source of reference for this post is this incredible, beautifully written article: John Piper’s “What Does It Mean to Seek the Lord”. Please take time to read it, I know it will encourage you! 

Read more about the #MissionWomanhood series here

 

 

{Body Image} You’re Beautiful When You Lift Up Others

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Dear daughter, there’s something I want you to know and recognize when it comes to the subject of beauty. The most beautiful women I know are the ones who lift up and encourage the downtrodden around them. In addition, beautiful people are those who create, give and share beauty and love with the world. Beauty is so much more than a beautiful face, it is a beautiful life.

For Attractive lips, speak words of kindness.
For lovely eyes, seek out the good in people.
For a slim figure, share your food with the hungry.
For beautiful hair, let a child run their fingers through it once a day.
For poise, walk with the knowledge that you never walk alone.
People, more than things, have to be restored, renewed, revived, reclaimed, and redeemed. ~ Sam Levenson

It’s so important to see the worth in others. Especially those people who most never notice, and who may not have the strength to see their own purpose and value. Your most difficult experiences in life will bring you to a place of understanding people who desperately need someone to simply care about them. It is in that place that your beauty will shine the brightest. Elisabeth Ross says “The most beautiful people we have known are those who have known defeat, known suffering, known struggle, known loss, and have found their way out of the depths. These persons have an appreciation, a sensitivity, and an understanding of life that fills them with compassion, gentleness, and a deep loving concern. Beautiful people do not just happen.” She’s right.

Not only is it important that you care for others, it is vital that you share the unique passions, art, ideas and vision that only YOU can to bring to the world around you. Creativity shatters obstacles and breaks down barriers. When people feel trapped in impossible places, it opens their prisons. It brings possibility and hope to bleak situations.

“God created us in His image, and He gave us an imagination with His imprint to create things for His glory!” – Alisa Hope Wagner. 

Dig up and nurture those talents deep inside of you! As you share the creative ideas God has placed within you, beauty will radiate from not only your soul, but from your actions and will spread its gifts to all who encounter them.

“But unless we are creators we are not fully alive. What do I mean by creators? Not only artists, whose acts of creation are the obvious ones of working with paint of clay or words. Creativity is a way of living life, no matter our vocation or how we earn our living. Creativity is not limited to the arts, or having some kind of important career.” Madeleine L’Engle

When we lift up others, creatively solve problems and dare to dream big, our perspective changes, our burdens become lighter, and our trivial problems are suddenly not so pressing. We begin to see a picture much bigger than our own tiny selves. And the result? Light pierces the darkness, others are strengthened and encouraged, and you are developing the atmosphere of Jesus who is our great example, and who did this better than anyone else in history.

So dear daughter of mine, fill yourself up with the beauty of Christ. Breathe it in. Look to Him every morning when you wake up. As you dwell in that source all day and every day, you will come to a place where you can see the world through His eyes, and share His radiance, love, light, and beauty everywhere you go. “Do not let kindness and truth leave you; Bind them around your neck, Write them on the tablet of your heart.” (Proverbs 3:3, NIV)  

By sharing beauty and kindness you will receive favor and feel a satisfaction and fulfillment like no other.  Your beauty will shine like bright stars in the darkest night. And when you lay your head on your pillow at night, you can rest in the peace of Him who created you, and lovingly formed you for a beautiful purpose which is greater and more important than you can ever imagine. 

~ Justina Dee

This is number five of seven posts on self image I’m writing for my daughter. Click here to read one of my favorites! 

Body Image: Embracing Your Imperfections

You're perfect in your imperfections." Body Image Series |LydiaGlick.com

To be comfortable in your own skin –

this is a destination I want so much for you to reach. It is the place in womanhood when you will wake and walk and sleep, and never think for one second that the body that is housing your soul is not beautiful or capable enough for the journey in front of you.

It is the day you understand what it means to embrace your physical flaws, knowing that your imperfections, your scars, your pain and your inadequacies are all opportunities for grace, healing and redemption to be known in your life, your body and in your heart – and then in turn you will be equipped to extend life and love to those around you.

There is nothing more rare, nor more beautiful, than a woman being unapologetically herself; comfortable in her perfect imperfection. To me, that is the true essence of beauty. ― Steve Maraboli

Deep and meaningful radiance flows from a woman who embraces the person God created her to be. This kind of beauty draws people near you instead of intimidating and pushing them away. It creates a space to bless others, and leave an impression of loveliness that will forever be imprinted on their hearts.

Your message, your ministry, your influence is built from your flaws. People relate to HUMANITY…not perfection.” ― Mandy Hale

Dear daughter of mine, may the song of your life continue to be a delicate melody that grows stronger and more meaningful with every day. And may you soon understand that those things which you perceive as less than perfect, are the very notes that make your life’s song an unforgettable work of beauty that lingers in the heart of all who behold it.

~ Justina Dee

Thank you for visiting my blog! This is one of the posts in a series I’m writing for my tween daughter. You can read more here. 

10 Things That Make You My Beautiful Girl {the first 5}

Intro: Today I’m beginning a series of seven “Healthy Monday” posts dedicated to my daughter. I’m appalled and devastated at the manner in which western culture has already begun to define her perception of beauty and her own body image, despite all the rigorous efforts on my part as a mother to keep it from happening.

I naively believed I had this healthy body image part of mothering figured out. But there was a day it all changed for me. I was talking with my distraught daughter. She was curled into a ball on her bed. Her sweet little head was on her pillow while gut-wrenching sobs came one after another. My heart felt like it was being ripped inside me. My (then) eight year old daughter had just told me she believed she was ugly and fat. I was flabbergasted. Shocked. Numb with disbelief. Infuriated that the world had inflicted such pain upon my daughter. How could this have happened? Her daddy and I (with much sacrifice) had protected her at all costs. Daily surrounded her with love and affirmation, and truth about who she was. Reminded her always of her great worth and the beauty that radiated from her heart. Even guarded her from the torrent of media that pours out it’s superficial lies and values to our little ones. Between my torrent of tears and her body-shaking cries, I coaxed her to tell me why she felt this way. She told be she had been carrying this burden since she was five years old. A little girl she knew, loved and admired looked at my daughters healthy body with it’s little girl belly and told her that she was fat. And that her teeth were crooked and her face wasn’t pretty. And my innocent child believed her. And never told me what happened till this day, several years later.

My daughter is not alone. Did you know that at the tender age of nine, 35% of girls are already dissatisfied with their bodies? (1) WHY?! I’ve been on a mission to find the answer, do something to change what’s happening, and help my daughter heal and navigate through this territory of a healthy body image. Over the next seven weeks I’ll share the things I’ve learned here. I value your input on the issue, please comment with links, resources, quotes and any helpful advice you have to share. I’m starting the series with ten of the many things I believe define beauty in a young lady. They may seem cliche, but that’s ok with me, because they’re true!

Disclaimer: if you don’t want to see the words “love” and “beautiful” written over and over again, stop reading now. (Smile.)

10 things that make you beautiful

Ten Things That Make You My Beautiful Girl {the first 5}

1) Your caring heart.

There’s nothing in the world more beautiful than a heart that cares for others. If you filled every house, skyscraper and shopping center in New York City, Paris and Hollywood with the best makeup, most expensive lotion, most-watched YouTube beauty tutorials, modeling how-to books, and fashion magazines, and used every single one of them, they couldn’t do a single thing to make your heart more beautiful than it already is. Because Your heart is a reflection of your character, and that’s a beautiful, valuable, precious gem that money can’t buy. I love your heart. I’ve seen it in action. The way you care for the people you encounter is an inspiring thing to see, and it makes me so proud to be your mother. There are countless ways to test what someone is made of. I’ll mention two of them here. The way you interact with children and animals, those weaker than you, and those who you will gain nothing from that counts in this world, and number two: the way you treat these same ones when no one is watching. I’ve seen you act on your tender respect for the least of these countless times. And the way your heart cares is beautiful.

2) Your perfect face.

I love every part of it. The beautiful, defined shape. Your radiant skin that gets all rosy with exercise. Your forehead and eyebrows that raise with surprise and furrow with frustration, where I love to gently rest my hand when bedtime comes. Your perfect nose that always finds a flower in which to bury itself. Your cheeks that I’ve covered with countless kisses since the day you were born. I love the way your jaw clenches with determination. If I could choose one daughter from a million girl’s faces, I would choose yours every single time. It’s lovely in every way. I still look at your face when I come to check on you at night while you sleep. I see your lashes resting on your cheeks, look at your ears, your perfect lips and beautiful hair framing it all, and I shake my head in disbelief, a tear rolls down my cheek and I whisper “thank you” to your Creator as I once again am overcome with your beauty. And I love to see your face peek around the corner when you wake up in the morning. I cannot believe how blessed I am to have a daughter with a perfect face like yours.

3) Your strong, healthy, beautiful body.

You have a beautiful, strong and healthy body. As I watch you grow I marvel at your energy, vitality and beaming health. When that incredible body of yours bounces into a room it’s like a ray of summer sunshine that brings energy to all it encounters. God designed every single inch of you with a specific purpose in mind, to bring much glory to himself, and make an eternal impact on the world. Your body is PERFECT. There’s not another man, woman, boy or girl in the world who will be able to do the things you can do, with the unique DNA you have running through your amazing veins . From your height, to your size, to the way you move, to your weight, you are beautiful. Your body is a perfect, delicate, strong and priceless vessel made for incredible things. Your worth is never measured by what others think of your body. Always remember what God thinks about you, how he lovingly made you, how He treasures you, the way he knows you and deeply loves you – and remember and know that your strong, healthy, beautiful body was made to do great things.  (Psalm 139)

4) Your sparkling eyes.

I fell in love with your eyes the moment you were born. I’ll never forget the time when you were a tiny baby, and your eyes truly looked into mine for the first time. I was moved to tears at all your eyes said, and the complete trust and love you placed in me. Whether your gorgeous eyes are sparkling with joy, or brimming with tears of pain or sadness, they are an incredibly beautiful thing to see. The eyes are windows to your soul, and because your soul is beautiful, your eyes bravely and brightly shine that inner beauty of yours into the world. I love the way your eyes are filled with expression, and you’re never able to hide what you’re truly feeling. I love the way dark circles under them will always tell when you’re tired. And the way you’ve fought with everything in you from the time you were a tiny baby to keep them open and not miss any of the possible adventures taking place around you. The way you see things amazes me. From shapes in nature, to tiny objects on the sidewalk, the adorable green ribbons a little elderly lady in town is wearing in her white hair, to a classic car driving down the road beside us, to the first bluebonnets and robins in the spring. The way you use your eyes to seek out and notice the people who need to be noticed – those ones no one else sees. Ah…your sparkling, eyes bring such joy to this mama’s heart.

5) Your gorgeous, contagious smile.

How I love that smile of yours – filled with joy, happiness and delight. When you smile, your whole face shines with such radiant beauty! I love the times you’re laughing hysterically with friends, when you tilt back your head and smile and laugh with all you’ve got. It makes everyone around you feel happier! I love to see you smile when you’re alone – reading, or dancing at home, or listening to music. Since you began smiling as a baby you’ve never been one to hand out your smiles to anyone. They’re always deserved. And that makes them even more special. You smile at elderly people. Lonely people. People who are sick, and sad, and feeling down. You share your smiles with babies and little children. And they all smile back. And I watch you, and I smile too. You’ve experienced some deep sadness and pain in your young life, and that makes your smile all the sweeter and more beautiful & meaningful. I love that knowing smile we exchange, where you nod your head slightly, and grin a little at our own inside joke. And you have your daddy’s humor and quick wit. I am always amazed at how you have the right words to say, at exactly the right time, and we all laugh and laugh and laugh. Your grandfather tells the story about falling in love with your Grandmama’s gorgeous smile forty years ago. It’s one of the sweetest stories I’ve ever heard him tell. And you’ve inherited that incredible smile. Keep smiling darling. And never, never stop. Your gorgeous, contagious smile has a tremendous amount of power and influence, don’t you ever forget it.

Next week come the next 5: Your beautiful hands & feet, your incredible strength, your knowledge & appetite for learning, your endless creativity, your brave spirit – and the icing on the cake; your unique identity (the story that can only be yours).

1. Liechty, J. M. (2010).Body image distortion and three types of weight loss behaviors among nonoverweight girls in the United States. Journal of Adolescent Health, 47 (2), 176–182. doi: 10.1016/j.jadohealth.2010.01.004

Links:

Verses on Self Esteem 

Find Your True Beauty

A Mighty Girl

Dove Self Esteem Project 

HP on “Am I Ugly Videos”

Eye Opening Statistics About Body Image